Not Single(Mother) Minded
Coworkers, Dating, Flirting, Restaurant, USA | Romantic | November 18, 2017
(A female coworker starts a conversation with me, a male, about relationships. It’s very friendly and casual. We’re about the same age. I’m single, never married. She’s been going through a divorce and has a four-year-old. But none of that is on my mind as we talk.)
Coworker
#1 : “Does the thought of dating a woman that already has kids weird you out?”
Me: “Yeah. I couldn’t do that. I don’t know. That’s a lot of complications and baggage and stuff right out the gate, and I’m young enough that it’s not really necessary to handle that if I don’t need to, you know?”
Coworker
#1 : “Oh, for sure. I can understand that.”
(She heads off to check on her tables, and another coworker comes up to me and practically smacks me upside the head.)
Coworker
#2 : “[MY NAME]! You f****** jerk!”
Me: “What? What did I do?”
Coworker
#2 : “She was asking that because she means her!“
Me: “Oh. Well, the answer doesn’t change!”
(For the record, she’s a very beautiful and friendly woman, but my position will hold. There would have to be something very magical between me and a single mother for me to be willing to put myself into the lives of her kids who will, at some level, see me as a guy keeping their mom and dad from getting back together. No, thanks.)